One hour they were there, in a second they were gone. Well, you grew up and forgot all of that. However, that feeling was kept in a box in his mind. Suddenly, when your son cries at a farewell, everything comes up.
Just hearing his cry makes you uncomfortable. When you were a little girl and trying to express yourself, you were almost always not heard. Because she was not heard, she had behaviors that defied her parents. Then maybe they would scream, as a way to interrupt their behavior.
You grew up and it was all kept in you. But why do you act like that? Because we carry within us a mental model based on reaction and not on the development of thinking before acting. Conscious parenting means understanding why we do what we do and breaking a cycle of repetitive patterns.
It is about becoming aware of our pains, anxieties, fears and joys, so that we can understand what needs to be done to act differently. That is, he is not someone who came into the world to fulfill his dreams. To paraphrase Shefali Tsabary, children are spirits that throb with their own trademark. So it is important to separate who you are from who your child is. Convinced of the best intentions of making our children responsible and capable of dealing with the world when they become adults, we ended up imposing our agenda on them.
And we often forget to look at what makes sense to them. However, that feeling was kept in a box in his mind. Suddenly, when your son cries at a farewell, everything comes up.
Just hearing his cry makes you uncomfortable. When you were a little girl and trying to express yourself, you were almost always not heard. Because she was not heard, she had behaviors that defied her parents.
Then maybe they would scream, as a way to interrupt their behavior. You grew up and it was all kept in you. But why do you act like that? Because we carry within us a mental model based on reaction and not on the development of thinking before acting. Conscious parenting means understanding why we do what we do and breaking a cycle of repetitive patterns.
It is about becoming aware of our pains, anxieties, fears and joys, so that we can understand what needs to be done to act differently. That is, he is not someone who came into the world to fulfill his dreams. To paraphrase Shefali Tsabary, children are spirits that throb with their own trademark. So it is important to separate who you are from who your child is. Convinced of the best intentions of making our children responsible and capable of dealing with the world when they become adults, we ended up imposing our agenda on them.
And we often forget to look at what makes sense to them. That is, what makes your hearts beat. We do not realize that when we impose our way of seeing the world on our children, we are also limiting their spirits.
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